Get Girlfriend Back

Why won’t my Man Marry Me?  This is a complex question that we receive pretty frequently nowadays.  This is a complex question that can only be properly answered by knowing the situation in detail.   It is then up to the woman to apply those potential reasons to her situation – and her Man.  Different Men choose to make the decision to marry a woman for different reasons.  For some men it is simply a time-delayed process wherein he gets to a certain comfort level and then commits. 

All men have a built-in ‘Love Equation’ – i.e. the subconscious calculator that compares the cost of the commitment, which is his freedom, to the value of the trade, which is you.  If that equation produces a result that appears to the man to be significantly skewed in his favor – he will, at some point, commit.  Conversely, if the answer is marginal or negative then he very often will drift away.   Over time, if the progression of things produces continuing and significantly less desirable results – he will ultimately disappear.

While it may sound corny, there is truth in the old adage that men mature into the feeling of needing to settle down.   This includes giving up the single life and playing the field.  If he is made to feel cared for and taken care of, it makes that transition to ‘married guy’ much less painful than anticipated.

It may seem like getting married is in conflict with or reduces his career aspirations.   This is often an extremely significant issue for highly career oriented guys.  This is a special situation requiring the woman to alter her plans to generate the feeling on the part of the man that his career aspirations are heightened – not lessened – by marrying you.  Attempting to get ex back from a withdrawn status or lack of commitment is heightened by your awareness of these facts.

Lifestyle differences and financial issues also greatly affect a man’s willingness to take the big step of getting married.  If he is not financially in a position of easily fitting himself into the role of husband – with all its financial commitments – he may be unwilling to do so.   Your chance to win your ex back, is greatly improved via a thorough understanding of these principles.

He may not see the need or he may be enjoying what amounts to a double life – he’s single when he’s at his place; married when he’s at your place.   This is a relatively recent development in the social customs of our culture.  In decades past – in prior generations, mainly – it was common for women to hold back their total ‘gift’ to the man until they married.  Today’s modern culture allows men to enjoy all of a relationship within weeks not years.  Knowing all of this may, indeed, help to get your ex back.